I am NOT the best thing since sliced bread.
My childhood was filled with building up my ego – and this
is healthy development. I learned how I was different from others. I learned
that I did not need my parents to survive. I developed my own interests,
passions, and the ability to make my own decisions. I learned what I was good
at, and stayed away from what I didn’t excel in. I learned to love my body and
what it could do as my self esteem grew into early adulthood.
But it seems to me that the experience of my adulthood,
and especially my experience in formation, has been to breakdown the ego I
spent the first part of my life building. Although each person is unique, God
has been teaching me about our commonality and unity as being beloved of God. I
have realized that while I can survive without asking others for help, in order
to thrive, I must rely on the experience and wisdom of others. I am learning
that while I am good at many things, I don’t know everything and still have a
lot to learn. I recognize that being pushed out of my comfort zone into the
realm of things I don’t excel at is necessary to further growth as a person.
And this new phase of temporary profession and ministry is no exception.
God has placed within me a passion to accompany others on
the journey. He especially has placed on my heart journeying with the poor and
all that comes with it. My other passions, science, research, building and
creating things, had built in skills developments within my schooling. And now,
in pursuing these other passions that God has placed on my heart I am realizing
that I don’t know anything. There is no school to teach me what poverty is like
for those who live it. No class is going to be able to teach me how to make all
the right decisions when walking with a person in a crisis situation. Only
experience and listening to the advice and wisdom of those who have done this
before me is going to teach me what I need to know. And for now, when I’m still
learning, when I’m still experiencing, I need to remember to swallow my ego and
ask for help.
After experiencing a situation in my new ministry where I
felt over my head and like I couldn’t make the right decisions in the moment because
of lack of experience or training, I asked God “how am I supposed to do this? I’m
not cut out for this job. I just don’t know how.” I thought, I am broken, so how can I fix anything else?
Exactly, brokenness loves brokenness. Fixing is not the
goal, love is.
I have spent so much of my life learning how to fix
things, invent new solutions, discover the next best cure. But with ministry,
with people, the goal is not to fix it, the goal is love and empowerment. And I
need to remember that even when I am looking at outcome measures, even when I
am evaluating the attendance patterns of my students, and especially when I am listening
to a student’s story. I don’t need to fix you or the situation, I just need to
love.